There is nothing new in what I am going to say. Most of us are aware of this fact and may have experienced it quite often but is something which we do not attach much importance to as a matter to be thought about.
Why is that we find it easy to suggest solutions to other’s problems while finding it difficult to find solutions to the same problem when being faced by us? I don’t think we can give a one line or let’s say a perfect answer to this question. How does our comprehension level and ability to solve issues differ when the issue is directly or indirectly connected to us? To cite a simple example, we tend to guide a driver while riding in a car. We tell him to drive slowly, we suggest him to apply the brakes or to change the gears, and we warn him of a vehicle coming in the opposite direction or about a pedestrian who is likely to cross the road. We don’t think twice before speaking out our mind in such situations and are quite confident about our driving skills. But the same we, I am sure no one would disagree, are quite often confused about all those things while we are on the driving seat. Why is it so?
Can we suggest that a psychological barrier of insecurity binds us when we are to take a decision on matters concerning us? We appear to be bothered about the outcome and the confusion created thus holds us back from taking a quick step. The same psychology does not appear to be active while suggesting solutions to problems faced by others. We are more confident because the outcome does not seemingly bother us or we take it that solution to further problems if any can be found out at that time. Or is it that while we are sure that we would be there to guide and assist the other person if he gets into trouble, we are not sure whether there would be somebody to help us if we further get into a connected problem.